AS A DIVORCE MENTOR YOU CAN MAKE AN AMAZING DIFFERENCE IN THE LIVES OF COUPLES AND CHILDREN AS YOU PROVIDE THE THERAPEUTIC COUNSEL THEY DESPERATELY NEED.
MENTORING WILL PROVIDE YOU WITH WONDERFUL BENEFITS, PERSONALLY AND PROFESSIONALLY.
Divorce counseling integrates perfectly into your current schedule.
After training, you will be designated as a Parting Properly divorce mentor in your area. As clients come directly to you, or are referred to you by Parting Properly, you will begin your interaction with an initial face to face meeting to establish your mentoring relationship. The meeting usually takes about an hour.
After your initial meeting, which a Parting Properly representative will also attend, almost all your interactions with your clients will be by telephone, text, or email. Most will be ten minutes or less and can be scheduled at your convenience.
The reason you can mentor so successfully by communicating in this way is that, after the initial meeting, you and the clients will have established a relationship of trust. You will find that your clients respect the value of your time and appreciate the efficiency of being able to bring to you their concerns without the impediment of structured times and dates and face to face meetings.
As you teach them correct principles and they learn to apply them they will gain greater and greater confidence in their abilities and require less and less counseling when they encounter challenges in resolving issues in a mutually beneficial manner.
The Parting Properly step by step method for bringing couples through divorce takes about twenty four hours of mentoring for each couple over the six month waiting period from the time the divorce is initiated until it can be finalized, or about four hours per month per client.
You can mentor five couples by committing about twenty hours per month, scheduled at your convenience, filling in your time available that is not now being used, and, at $200.00 or more per hour, potentially adding Four Thousand Dollars or more to your income each month.
Divorcing couples and attorneys are ill-equipped to deal with the emotional toll divorce can take.
Much of what divorce attorneys do they do poorly. They are not trained to deal with emotions and relationship issues.
As a Mental Health Professional (“MHP”), with Parting Properly training and support, your skill will enable you to guide couples through a constructive rather than a destructive experience during their divorce.
Each couple can have a good divorce or a bad divorce. Their fate is dependent on the counsel and support they receive during the divorce process.
It is usually the subculture of attorneys and their training in adversarial advocacy that promotes conflict and animosity at the expense of cooperative behavior during the divorce process.
Divorce mentoring is about helping couples make practical, collaborative decisions about issues that relate to restructuring a family.
Mentoring clients to solve their divorce problems coincides exactly with a MHP’s traditional mission to facilitate clients’ own decision making. The prevention of emotional harm to couples and children is squarely within your role as a healer.
You already provide therapeutic assistance when couples are contemplating divorce and after the divorce is finalized. You can now use your therapeutic skills to support each member of the couple emotionally during the process, by empowering both of them to reach practical, common-sense outcomes.
As you mentor them and teach them that they are more qualified to make decisions about their lives and the allocation of their assets than any attorney or judge, and that they have greater understanding, love, and concern for their children than any child custody evaluator, you will save them from a future contaminated by unforgiveness and ingratitude, and guide them to a future filled with hope and emotional well-being.
Every Parting Properly client you mentor will be grateful.
Couples come to Parting Properly because Parting Properly offers a non-litigious, non- adversarial, non-contentious, less bitter, less expensive, quicker, more fair, more empowering way to end their relationships on a mutually beneficial basis. Couples you will mentor understand the futility and the incredible expense in time, money, and energy of fighting.
The mindset of couples that engage Parting Properly is never, “help us fight.” It is always, “show us how we can avoid fighting.”
We always show them how to avoid fighting and give them the tools to get through the divorce as quickly and inexpensively as possible, which is exactly what they want to do.
Parting Properly divorce mentors are granted a tangible sense of satisfaction and a wonderful feeling of achievement for rendering a valuable service which is of benefit to the lives of not just two individuals and their children, but their extended family and friends.
You can provide mentoring successfully as soon as you have received the Parting Properly training.
Parting Properly has created the perfect environment for MHPs to mentor divorcing couples and bring relief to them and their children.
The Parting Properly step by step process is simple. It is about empowerment. With the support and guidance of a mentor, couples are empowered to decide how to allocate property and liabilities honestly and fairly, how to meet the need for support, and how to craft a co-parenting agreement in the best interests of their children.
Once empowered, with the emotional support and guidance they receive from their Parting Properly mentor, they can negotiate civilly, with integrity and common sense.
Clients love the Parting Properly approach, which saves them money and time, and provides a basis for their future success.
In order to allow MHPs to provide the counsel, emotional support, and guidance couples need, Parting Properly frees the MHPs from concerns about the details and minutia of the process. Parting Properly takes care of all the logistics.
All the elements of the divorce are handled efficiently by Parting Properly representatives, including, but not limited to:
• Assisting clients in the preparation and filing of all documents necessary to initiate and complete the process.
• Assisting clients to obtain and provide all financial information
• Assisting clients to create a marital settlement agreement, taking into account the allocation of assets and liabilities and the determination of the need for support and how best to provide it.
• Assisting clients to create a co-parenting agreement.
Parting Properly representatives and MHPs work as a team to enable clients to do what needs to be done to complete the divorce process without rancor and contention.
Clients love working with a team on their side, helping them mediate differences and achieve mutually beneficial results, rather than being stuck in the middle of a battle between their separate attorneys, each trying to achieve a “win.”
When they receive the logistical support from Parting Properly and the emotional support, understanding, and guidance from their mentor they are able to overcome their fears, develop self confidence, and emerge from the process with a firm foundation for future success.
Parting Properly has scraped away the legal mystique that surrounds the world of divorce.
Contrary to what the legal profession would have the public believe, if a divorcing couple does not litigate there are only two legal requirements. Only two. PERIOD!
(1) Each of the parties must make a full, complete, and honest disclosure of all financial matters (assets, liabilities, income, and expense) to the other; and
(2) Any agreement dealing with children must be for the children’s welfare and best interest.
THAT’S IT!
The couple that decides not to litigate can do whatever they decide to do, regardless of the arbitrary, one-size fits all, legislative rules that guide attorneys.
When Parting Properly is engaged to bring a couple through divorce, the parties agree not to litigate, freeing themselves to decide all matters on the basis of fairness, with an eye to the future.
Parting Properly trains MHPs to provide the counsel divorcing couples need to get through the process with success.
You already have the skills required. You just need Parting Properly training, direction, and support to apply your skills and experience to meet the need.
A MHP, acting as a divorce mentor, assists clients to recognize that they can create agreements based upon fairness and mutual benefit rather than trying to shoe horn their agreements into some arbitrary one-size fits all definition that does not apply when the criteria is fairness.
The mantra of Parting Properly is “Never give a third party permission to make decisions for your life that are better made yourself.” We teach clients to honor that admonition.
Attorneys are trained to operate in an adversarial professional culture which may result in their fanning flames of hostility and clashing with the needs of families.
Because divorce requires changes in living arrangements it requires decisions about housing, moving, employment, child rearing, and careers, among others, that have a significant emotional component. Therapists, not attorneys, are better suited to guide practical decision making so that clients can decide wisely.
In the reorganization of the family as a result of divorce, therapists can make a profound difference in the outcome. MHPs are the most suited of any professional group to mentor divorcing couples. NOW, FINALLY, with Parting Properly training and support, they are able to do so.
Obtaining the training and getting started is easy.
Parting Properly has made the training as simple and easy as possible.
1. A comprehensive manual is provided.
2. Four interactive video conference classes, of approximately two hours each, are provided to trainees. You can ask questions and receive answers in real time and interact directly with your instructor. The classes are scheduled at convenient times.
3. Parting Properly instructors are always available during the learning process for telephone, text, or email chats.
4. The classes and Manual cost a one-time fee of $925.00.
5. After the training Parting Property provides continuous support, takes care of all the logistics, and is available to deal with any issue.
Believe it or not, it is fun to learn in Parting Properly classes how to set clients on a firm foundation for future success, and how to help them achieve the following:
• Emotional divorce (“letting go”) as well as legal divorce.
• Retention of the ability to co-parent successfully.
• Emotional acceptance of the fairness of agreements they have reached.
• Children comfortable in both households.
• The ability to resolve disputes themselves as circumstances change.
• The ability to rebuild their lives.
The Need for your services is great.
Well over a thousand of your neighbors in the area where you practice will make the decision to end their marital relationships this year. In this state, over 160,000 couples petition for divorce every year. Divorces increase after the holidays.
Most divorces are preceded by either or both members of a couple seeking help from a MHP. If they decide to divorce, they are most often woefully unprepared. They are vulnerable to misinformation that directs them down destructive paths.
Many therapists consider their role terminated when a couple announces a decision to divorce. In the past, many have wished their clients well and advised them to consult lawyers.
Such therapists, when they do that, are exiting at arguably the most sensitive and crucial turning point, when the couple must start making numerous decisions that will have enormous repercussions on their mental health, the well-being of their children, their finances, and their living situation for many years to come.
THAT IS WHERE YOU CAN COME IN.
The chances of a good divorce can be dramatically improved if the divorcing individuals can be educated early, given support to deal with their emotions, and taught how best to control their own behavior. You are ideally suited to do that. Attorneys are not.
You can meet the need.
Most couples do not want to fight.
Divorce mentors enjoy an exceptional feeling of success from acting as the catalysts that enable clients to do things they could never otherwise do. Divorce mentors receive a marvelous additive of positive energy in their lives every day.
Divorce mentoring is, indeed, a form of unselfish service. Those who provide it enjoy the rewards of using their skill on behalf of those who are in desperate need and who, invariably, are appropriately grateful.
A MHP divorce mentor does not need to have a trained legal mind in order to counsel couples to make fully informed, fair, and honest decisions in the process of protecting and allocating assets and dividing liabilities, determining needs and available resources, and caring for children.
It is useful, of course, for a MHP divorce mentor to have a working knowledge of the divorce process in order to provide accurate information and, more importantly, to recognize and dispel common myths about divorce.
Parting Properly training provides an overview of divorce procedure and introduces MHPs to the legal culture which interprets laws that, while only applicable if a couple litigates, never-the-less have become embedded in public consciousness.
MHPs who take the training find it fascinating to learn how arcane legislative decisions, some based upon outdated attitudes from the time of the Civil War over 150 years ago, are still applied by attorneys to shape the way their clients approach the process of ending their marriages.
Such information helps MHPs guide clients to avoid the emphasis placed by the legal process on fault finding. The legal process is ready-made to encourage a spouse, who may actually be willing to forgive and move on, to focus on blaming the behavior of the other to the point that he or she wants revenge or vindication. Attorneys sometimes encourage their client’s fantasy that a judge will side with them.
MHPs who understand the psychological dynamics of divorce are sorely needed to accompany couples through the process, if only to help them focus on the future, rather than the past. MHPs can lead couples to achieve a “good” divorce. Parting Properly training prepares them to do so.
Divorce involves changes, all of which come at an emotional price. The Parting Properly Training regarding the anticipated changes and how best to prepare clients to deal with them emotionally will expand your perspective. The training is exciting as you begin to understand and celebrate the vision of Parting Properly for the future of divorce.
MHPs, with Parting Properly training and support, are the future of divorce.
A trained MHP can continuously, through the process, help clients identify what they are feeling at each stage and help them to predict the consequences of acting on those feelings.
A trained MHP can help each spouse find reasonable interpretations of the behavior of the other spouse to minimize attribution of malice when the other spouse’s behavior is troubling.
A trained MHP, who is familiar with divorce, as taught by Parting Properly, can help normalize feelings and behavior and assist each client to keep his or her eye on long-term interests.
A trained MHP can help clients explore the emotional consequences of strategies and tactics so that the clients are not led blindly into destructive behavior. Often a client’s refrain is, “My life feels totally out of control.” A Parting Properly trained MHP can help restore a sense of control and give both clients the perspective needed to move forward confidently.
You can see why Parting Properly has rejected the dysfunction of legal proceedings and replaced it with divorce mentoring. While it may sound like an oxymoron, a properly trained MHP can achieve a “good” divorce for both clients.
After the training, with Parting Properly support, it is satisfying to participate directly in the lives of families as they go through the process of reordering their relationships for their own benefit as well as for the benefit of their children.
The Parting Properly Promise:
After you have mentored a family successfully through the divorce process, you will get a lump in your throat and a feeling of gratitude in your heart as you consider how your efforts have impacted the lives of clients with whom you have established a very special bond.
As a divorce mentor you will have saved them from falling into the black hole of the doomsday legal divorce process, and you will have seen them emerge from a traumatic and difficult situation empowered and confident as they move forward with their lives.
The Parting Properly Philosophy.
Divorce has been characterized as one of the most traumatic experiences an individual or child can endure, second only to the death of a loved one. Bitter divorces tend to go on forever, draining a family’s resources, and inhibiting the ability of couples and children to get on with their lives.
The more contact couples have with the legal system, the worse off they are. The dysfunctional system, set up to compartmentalize legal and emotional issues, will never change on its own. The divorce industry profits from the pain and suffering of families to the tune of Fifty Billion Dollars a year.
Nearly one-hundred percent of divorcing couples do not want to fight. That is true even when they have been fighting for years. Most people are not stupid. They understand the cost of fighting in a divorce. They just want to get the divorce over as soon and inexpensively as possible.
Most couples come to Parting Properly tired. They look to Parting Properly to relieve them from the conflict, minor or intense, that they have endured as their relationship deteriorated. The few who do want to fight engage attorneys. They do not engage Parting Properly.
Unless potential clients are willing to sign an engagement letter that both have renounced litigation as a means of resolving disputes, they do not become clients.
People who sign the engagement letter understand that Parting Properly is devoted to mentoring them to achieve a civil, cooperative divorce with integrity rather than acrimony, and they welcome the approach.